So many people are unhappy with the title sex addiction when they are looking at their sexual behavior.  When I first see a client, the very first piece we look at is if they or a loved one is unhappy with what they are doing.  Then we look at if the behavior has increased in frequency and risk.  Third we look if there have been negative consequences and fourth, are they keeping it a secret.  We can call the dynamic whatever we want, I want to know if what is happening is creating joy, growth, and connection, or, are we looking at a very limiting and currently or eventually a destructive thing to deal with fear, anxiety, stress and yearning.