Dancing Into Intimacy

Dancing Into Intimacy Workshop will be on June 7, 2015, Sunday from 9:30 a.m.  until 12:30 p.m.  The title sums up the essence of what we are doing.  Increasing intimacy is a basic desire for most couples.  However intimacy requires connection.  With sex addiction, but also what I am finding with couples in general, is that both people are not sure of what their role is in the relationship.  Communication has become ridden with misunderstanding, unresolved hurt feelings and protective mechanisms that inhibit warmth, connection, enjoyment and passion.  In this workshop we will be working with how it feels to come together with one person taking "the lead" and the other taking "the follow".  We play with switching off these energies through the morning.  When doing this work with individual couples comments such as "I feel so confident." and "I feel beautiful." also "We haven't connected like this in years!" are expressed.

I partner with a certified dance instructor, Allison Johnson, who is an expert in bringing out the best in people through partner dancing.  She is patient, competent and an amazing dancer.  I, as the psychotherapist, watch for all the subtleties that happen the moment the couple comes onto the dance floor.  Does her body say she is scared?  Does his body say he isn't fully in the relationship?  Do both stop breathing when they come into contact signaling anxiety, apprehension, a lack of trust?  Once revealed, we can work with all of it to invite some vulnerability, perhaps a lot of courage, clarity, and a whole lot of fun!

I am inviting all who would like to attend, therapists included.  Couples and individuals both can attend to learn more about yourself in relationship.  At least one insight is guaranteed! No dance experience is necessary.

Price is $149.00 per person.  Healthy snack, tea and coffee provided during a brief break.  Register at www.wendyconquest.com on the Payments Page.  See you there!

Building More Fulfilling Relationships - The Bridge

There is a concept that has been coming into my sessions with clients when we are talking about their relationships.  I often, along with the people I work with, see things in pictures.  The image of a bridge has surfaced.  A bridge links one piece of land or matter to another.  The link can be over water, sometimes a stream and then perhaps a part of the ocean; a deep gorge; somewhere in the jungle; or within a building.  If you look at your relationship as a bridge, what type is it?  What is the first thought that comes into your mind?  Does the thought of something like the London Bridge come up?  Or perhaps one of those old, mossy foot bridges that sway when you step on it.  Could it be a covered wooden bridge?  And, is this what you want it to be?  If not, what needs to happen to change the look and feel of this relationship representation?

We can also look at the pieces that make up your bridge with your loved one?  Is it that you laugh a lot together and enjoy gardening?  Is it that you both are great parents together and love to cook?  Perhaps you like the same t.v. shows, going out to dinner and have a wonderful sexual connection?  Are there parts to the bridge that could be stronger - or more flexible?  Are there some places in the connection that need to be repaired?

I invite you to try on this exercise.  Let me know how it goes.  I would welcome hearing your experience.